Overcoming Unwanted Childhood Memories

Many people have said to me, “Even after 30 years, that person is still the same” Impossible! If we are not growing and changing then we are dead. Our perception of someone and their behaviors may SEEM the same but that’s because of what we… are focusing on. If we focus on one particular behavior, yes, we can notice it and think that person has never changed but we are missing the whole picture. There are always changes with ourselves and others, we just don’t recognize them because of our focus. Have you ever noticed how you can be thinking of a color, let’s say it’s orange, and when you leave the house and go about your day, you begin to notice everything that is orange and also how many orange things there are that you never noticed before? That is because we changed our focus. Or you buy an object because you haven’t seen many around but after you own one yourself, you begin to see them everywhere? That’s a change of focus. I have told many clients that we are always changing. I am not the same person I was as a baby in the crib, I’m not the same person I was going to grade school, nor am I the same person I was in high school or as a single parent or even the same person I was when I first married 6 years ago. I’m not even the same person I was YESTERDAY! We are always changing whether we choose to recognize this or not. If you don’t like what you ARE seeing, simply change your focus!!!

Are You A Leader Or A Leader?


The world’s most successful people have one thing in common: they think differently from everyone else. Thinking is a discipline. If you want to be better at it, you’ve got to work at it. Smart thinkers expose themselves to different ideas and types of people. They’re also selective about spending most of their time with people who  challenge them.

Remember the last time you had a brilliant idea at 2 a.m., but it sounded sort of ridiculous when you woke up the next morning?

Thoughts need to be “shaped until they have substance” and need to stand the  test of “clarity and questioning“. Spend time with like minded individuals. Thinking with others yields higher returns. It’s like giving yourself a  shortcut. That’s why brainstorming sessions are so effective.

Too many people act, hoping that others have thought things through first. To reject popular thinking you must be OK with feeling uncomfortable. Also remember that right now, there are a bunch of other people out there deciding to think for themselves – and they’re the ones who are successful.

When you’re strategic, you reduce your margin of error. Simply having vague  ideas of where you are and what you want to accomplish will get you no where. Henry Ford once said, “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into  smaller parts.”

You can’t think you’re always right. Give other concepts a chance.

Too many people only plan for the day. Smart thinkers take time to plan out  their weeks, months, and long-term goals — and then they follow through. They also don’t walk into meetings, parties and coffee dates blind. They  decide what they want to learn from people before walking through the door.

Reflective thinking gives you perspective and confidence in your decision-making  skills. If you’re not reflecting, it’s holding you back more than you think. As Socrates said, “An unexamined life is not worth living.”

Smart people don’t see limitations. They see possibilities. Former baseball star Sam Ewing once said that “nothing is so embarrassing as  watching someone do something that you said could not be done.”

Creative people are dedicated to ideas. They embrace ambiguity, don’t fear failure, and hang out with other creative  people.

A realistic perspective allows you to get close enough to a problem in order to tackle it. Facing potential consequences also helps you be more efficient, and it gives you credibility.

To become a more realistic thinker, you must:

1. appreciate the truth,

2. do  your homework and get the facts,

3. think through the pros and cons,

4. consider  the worst-case scenario, and

5. align your thinking with your resources.

At the end of the day, it’s important to remember we can all change the way we  think

Learning how to master the process of thinking well leads you to productive  thinking. If you can develop the discipline of good thinking and turn it into a  lifetime habit, then you will be successful and productive all of your life.

The Heart Chakra

Scientific research has shown that by focusing on your heart as you feel gratitude, the rhythm of your heart immediately becomes much more even and harmonious, resulting in major improvements to your immune system and health.

The Heart Chakra is the center for unconditional love, compassion, empathy, forgiveness and tolerance. The Heart is the seat of the Soul. The Anahata nurtures life lessons of love and compassion, self acceptance and confidence, hope and inspiration, and generosity. On the flip side, hate, fear, envy, anger and despair reflect an imbalance of the Heart Chakra.

The Heart Chakra color is green, and the secondary color is pink. It is seated deep within your heart.

Nothing can be released emotionally, until we are willing to open our back heart. The ego is completely in charge when the back heart is closed. The solar plexus is about our personal power. Many humans have been living from ego and deriving their power through the solar plexus and ego. This changes when the back is open. Now there is no need for control, you are in your own power, not needing to control people, places, things.

Our Imaginations


Many of us believe that we have little or no imaginations. That they are something like make believe, pretend, or fabricated from thin air.

Truth is;

Our imaginations are our memories. Everything we have ever learned or experienced.


If I asked you to close your eyes and imagine yourself in some unknown place, in some obscure location you’ve never even heard of before, like say, The Chobe Chilwera Lodge in Botswana, Africa, it’s not likely you will be able to give me any details of that place. How can you imagine something you’ve never even seen before?


If I asked you to close your eyes and imagine yourself standing in your kitchen at home, you likely would be able to give me endless details.

Our imaginations are our memories! Without the imagination we would be unable to recognize our mother or find our way home each day.

This is how and why the information garnered through a Past Life Regression is indeed, real facts that are ‘remembered’ and NOT made up.

Don’t Stress The Stresses


A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like the glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed, unable to do anything.”

It’s important to let go of our stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and through the night. Remember to put the glass down.

The Power Of Positive Thinking

What are the benefits of positive thinking? A positive mental attitude will make you feel good, it will improve your health and even extend your life expectancy. Positive thinkers have more fun, they experience more success, they enjoy their life more than negative thinkers. This does not mean that things don’t go wrong for positive minded people, but if it does they know how to pick themselves up and quickly get back on track again.

Negative and pessimistic minded people over exaggerate every little problem, they analyse about what’s gone wrong or what might go wrong as if it’s the end of their world. While on the other hand positive thinkers will search for a positive solution or a successful way to get over their setbacks, they won’t allow any obstacles to prevent them achieving what they want.

It is important to think positively for many reasons but that does not mean you have to spend all your day thinking positive and happy thoughts because that’s to much like hard work.

You can eliminate negative thinking and learn how to think more positively with a little amount of effort, it won’t be long before you have left the negative mindset behind and you will actually soon start to begin to enjoy life again. Once you get into the habit of positive thinking you will be able to experience more success in every area of your life.

If you want to achieve more success and feel good in the process you need to develop the powers of positive thinking, no one achieves much by negative thinking. There are very few benefits of negative thinking, negative thoughts serve no worthwhile purpose, they will make you feel bad and they will cause you fear, stress, anger and frustration, they will also make your life a complete misery.

We all have negative thoughts from time to time, they are a natural reaction when things go wrong, what you must do is quickly put the breaks on them before they take hold and they start to destroy your life, at times when we are run down and tired we can also tend to think more negatively.

How exactly can we achieve this with little to no effort and without thinking about it much?


To make any changes in your life you have to change on the inside first to bring about a better life on the outside, you cannot do it the other way around. The new positive information you will be feeding your mind will help change you and your life for the better. 

The advantage you will have with subliminal messaging is because you will be in a relaxed state due to the soothing back ground music and sounds of nature which mask the hidden positive messages your critical mind won’t be able to detect the affirmations.

However your all powerful subconscious mind can here them and it will act on them accordingly without question. This means your critical mind cannot possibly reject the positive information being fed directly into your mind so they will go straight into your subconscious mind undetected, this is where they need to go without any objection.

Your subconscious mind has no ability to reject any information it just accepts it as being true. This therefore means all the positive suggestions go directly into the subconscious mind without giving the conscious mind any chance to rebel against the new idea’s.

 To get the best results out of audio subliminal messages you should play them once a day but then forget about them. Do not look for changes, just allow them to work without interference, doubt or frustration otherwise you will run the risk of self sabotage.

There has been quite a lot of research been undertaken lately with some truly amazing results and positive feedback about the effects subliminal messages can have on your moods and behaviours.

Brain Sync has a long list of powerful MP3’s that I really enjoy. Click on this word POSITIVE, scroll down to the ‘positive thinking’ title and check it out!




Coaching Is…

Change your beliefs – change your life!

Free Home Study NLP Course

Michael Stevenson is my new favorite guy! He is a Master Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming and practices the art of gratitude to its fullest and here’s how he does it. There are many things online that boast ‘free’ but end up with hidden costs, or various other ‘surprises’. NOT IN THIS CASE! When Michael tells you he offers a wonderful FREE online course on NLP he means just that. 100% FREE with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. You don’t even have to give your email address. He has been so successful in life the last 12 years that he wants to give back! Good for him and I hope that some of you will take advantage of this wonderful opportunity. Have you ever wanted to increase your personal power but have all the usual excuses? No time, money or the chance to travel to classes. Our excuses are what hold us back and now you have none!
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Even in the biblical days, humor was considered a tool of therapeutic medicine. “A merry heart does good like medicine, but a broken spirit drieth bones” PRV 17:22.

The Latin origin of the word “humor” means fluid or moisture. According to medieval physiology, the body hosted four primary humors, each associated with a mood: choler, anger; bile, melancholy; blood, confidence; and phlegm, apathy. An excess of any one of these humors brought on poor health and often ridicule, whereas a correct balance was indicative of “good humor,” or health.

Some cultures used humor and laughter to lift spirits and promote health, employing individuals like the European court jesters or Native American shamans. However, humor was not always thought of as good for one’s health. Some cultures associated laughter with the work of the devil. In Puritan times, laughter was considered a moral sin, regardless of the occasion, and even smiling was prohibited.

The late Norman Cousins wrote eloquently about having laughed himself back to health after suffering from a serious chronic disease. The experience had such an impact that he changed careers late in life to help bring this information to the health care profession. Jokes seemed so important to Sigmund Freud that he wrote a book on the subject. But we don’t need professionals to tell us about the magnetism of laughter. With great insight, we call a funny person “the life of the party.” Anyone who has picked up a copy of Reader’s Digest in the last forty years knows that laughter is the best medicine.

Research has shown that laughter increases the secretion of the natural chemicals, catecholamines and endorphins that make people feel so peppy and good. It also decreases cortisol secretion and lowers the sedimentation rate, which implies a stimulated immune response. Oxygenation of the blood increases and residual air in the lungs decreases. Heart rate initially speeds up and blood pressure rises; then the arteries relax, causing heart rate and blood pressure to lower. Skin temperature rises as a result of increased peripheral circulation. Thus, laughter appears to have a positive effect on many cardiovascular and respiratory problems. In addition, laughter has superb muscle relaxant qualities. Muscle physiologists have shown that anxiety and muscle relaxation cannot occur at the same time and that the relaxation response after a hearty laugh can last up to forty-five minutes.


The Betty Erickson Special: Self-Hypnosis Technique

Sit comfortably and focus on a point, softening your gaze. Take in the whole room. At some point your eyes will naturally close. Just let it happen when it does.

Complete the sentence below with observations in each of the three categories.

Note: While it’s ideal to observe different things, in the audio or visual realm it’s okay to repeat items if necessary (e.g. you’re in a very quiet room and you only hear one or two things. Remember that silence can be heard, too.

1. “I am now aware that I see _________.” (Repeat 4 times, 4 different visual observations)

2. “I am now aware that I hear _________.” (Repeat with 4 different auditory observations)

3. “I am now aware that I feel _________.” (Repeat with 4 different kinesthetic observations)

1. “I am now aware that I see _________.” (Repeat 3x, visual)

2. “I am now aware that I hear _________.”(Repeat 3x, auditory)

3. “I am now aware that I feel _________.” (Repeat 3x, kinesthetic)

1. “I am now aware that I see _________.” (2x)

2. “I am now aware that I hear _________.” (2x)

3. “I am now aware that I feel _________.” (2x)

1. “I am now aware that I see _________.” (1x)

2. “I am now aware that I hear _________.” (1x)

3. “I am now aware that I feel _________.” (1x)

Repeat as needed until you feel a relaxed feeling of being in trance.

You can add your own suggestions once in the trance, or you can ask your unconscious mind before you begin, that while you are in trance it, can go through and retrieve all useful and constructive references and resources pertinent to your issue and have them available to you when you come out of trance. Then just trust that this will happen and enjoy your time in self-hypnosis, slowing opening your eyes whenever you’re ready to return.


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